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Crossed Legs Movement

Women in a small town in Columbia, South America were fed up with their town and the men who would not repair the roads. These women took matters into their own hands, and did the one thing they knew would spur their men to take action and fix the road: they banded together and agreed to withhold sex until the job was done. Conniving and manipulative? Maybe. But you can add “effective” to that list because their protest, called the “Crossed Legs Movement,” worked like a charm.  Let’s be serious for a minute. . It is a fact that a woman who withhold sex and pleasure in order to get someone to do something for her, has to be Fearless and a Boss B*#*h. This common custom had been around since my great grandmother’s era and is just not effective in many countries. Men have too many choices now and accessibility to those who will offer sex/pleasure for a pack of chewing gum, negates that kind of negotiation in this country. It was the last resort for those Columbian women and it has worked for them. They have one bargaining chip and they’re using it for the greater good.sexstrikeIn a recent article with Marie Claire magazine, singer Janelle Monae had this to say –  On respecting women:People have to start respecting the vagina. Until every man is fighting for our rights, we should consider stopping having sex. I love men. But evil men? I will not tolerate that. You don’t deserve to be in my presence. If you’re going to own this world and this is how you’re going to rule this world, I am not going to contribute anymore until you change it. We have to realize our power and our magic”.

Um..yeah. A Sex Strike may seem like a plan, but consider Your life and how you live it before you jump on the bandwagon. Conservative legislators continue to attempt to regulate a woman’s body and choices, and a man who bragged about sexual assault is currently in charge of our nation’s vast nuclear arsenal – this is not the time to play nice and hope for the best.  Own your sexuality and get it if you want it, but if a man (or partner of any gender) isn’t a respectful person who wants to see you empowered with equal rights, get off that man/partner!  Go find someone else. Or, go shopping for something meaningful like some great Sex Toys.sexstrike3
Will You or can You be satisfied with Toys?

Jane Fonda who is still Gorgeous at age 79 admits she gets down with vibrators. Recently she talked about her love for her toys in a stint on the Ellen DeGeneres show:  She says she even has a vibrator that “hangs around my neck and it looks like a beautiful piece of silver jewelry.” But whether that convenience is actually helpful when Fonda is out and about town “depends on who you’re with and what the bathroom looks like”.  Apparently never one to show up empty-handed, the iconic actress even brought a vibrator for show-and-tell on TV. DeGeneres was having none of it though, reminding her, “This is daytime….I cannot show that”..but Fonda has never cowed to Hollywood conventions before, and she didn’t here. Instead, she yanked the vibrator out of the box, earning the attention of network censors, who omitted Fonda’s demonstration, on air. janefonda2

There is nothing to be ashamed of, if you have a little something hiding in your bedside drawer. Sex toys are not only for Desire Divas. If you have never considered a sex toy before, then consider this – sex toys can amplify sensations, and who wouldn’t want that?  Often times your partners may feel as if they are inadequate and that’s why we are seeking pleasure from something other than them. However, sex toys don’t necessarily need to be pleasurable for just one person. Couples are beginning to experiment more in the bedroom, and sex toys have never been more tantalizing. So, go ahead and introduce your lover to the on-time-always-ready helper and let them know that NO one or NO thing can take their place in your Heart. . . unless they decide.


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  • Reply nerline

    Oh just preach it, Neti! Such a fun and well-written article! We are indeed more powerful than we think, but I don’t think this something that I would do to my husband. I’m glad these women ended up winning in the end.

    05/04/2017 at 3:26 am
  • Reply Oh to Be a Muse

    Wow, I hadn’t heard of the Crossed Legs Movement in Colombia, so thanks for sharing. It’s crazy the things that women have to do to be heard. But I salute them for it!

    05/04/2017 at 3:11 pm
  • Reply Antionette Blake (@ambde)

    Yes, I heard about the “withhold sex until we get our way” movement and just had to laugh as there are too many other women willing to step up… not saying that’s right, but I think it’s not a good idea especially if you enjoy sex. Toys are fun too, especially when it’s between you and your partner – lol.

    05/04/2017 at 10:17 pm
  • Reply jamala wallace

    LOL….Hell I’ve been married (30 years) and it’s something about the P.O.P (power of the p***y) that can get stuff done…(I know we shouldn’t barter, but hey.. when I’ve exhasted all the’s time to step it up).. lol.. good post!

    05/05/2017 at 12:40 am
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks JW. Yes POP works.

      05/05/2017 at 1:30 pm
  • Reply idu

    We got all the power for sure. Sex toys are becoming very rampant in and out of unions. Such an awesome post.

    05/07/2017 at 8:58 pm
  • Reply Lenya

    Oh my Lysistrata and the sex strike and anti war comedy by Aristophanes is back? I still find it amusing as a play but unacceptable in real life. It’s silly and I don’t hold with blackmailing anyway. And emotional blackmailing is the worst kind of it, don’t you think. Do this and you may f+++ me. I wouldn’t sell myself as cheap as that. Sorry but that’s how I see the whole thing, you sell your body like a prostitute by doing so, open your legs as what? a reward maybe? Good topic again, Neti my beautiful sis.
    big hugs and much much luv

    05/13/2017 at 3:49 pm
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