Our Hair

Like it or not, you are being judged by how you look, how you wear your Hair, how you dress, and how you carry yourself – and, if you’re lucky, how you do your job. The Color and Texture of your hair should not really matter to a prospective employer. However it really does.  It is not that they do not want you to dye your hair, it’s that they don’t want your hair to be something out of this world working for their companies.

Our obsession with our hair begins at an early age, right around the time when our mothers or parental guardians start grooming our strands. From that day, we have an idealized hairstyle we want for each day, based on mood, outfits, society and how much work our hair is putting back into the relationship.  In a recent Dove hair research, it was found that “only 11 percent of women are happy with everything about their hair.” Even more staggering, the research found 99 percent of women judge each other based on hairstyles. And that’s mentally unhealthy.

There are some companies who will say, that the person they are looking to employ should not have hair that is wild as this makes the company itself look bad. For instance, if you are applying for a job flipping burgers, they may not care what color your hair is dyed. But, if you are applying for a job as a therapist, they most likely will not want you to have orange, blue or purple hair. If you care to know – What does your hair say about you? and what message is your style sending? Also, you might want to consider that there are some predisposed ideas out there, that some hair colors dictate whether or not you are smart enough for a job. Yes. Think about all of those blond jokes you heard in high school and still today.  Now, think about what else is said about women with blonde hair.

Black women are known to be audacious when it comes to our manes. A billion dollar business has been spawned from our need to color, straighten, curl, braid, and coif. Hair means a lot to many women, but it can mean even more to our career. Your appearance does not affect your ability to do a job, but it does impact your success. Keeping your hair & looks cute can influence your salary as much as your work experience. I also read . . . ‘research showed that attractive people earn an average of 3% to 4% more than a person with below average looks’. Say what?  Nah. . not in the USA where we have labor laws & discrimination laws to protect workers. Right?

Hair goes beyond aesthetics. It is very personal and public – visible to everyone while also being an intrinsic part of our body.  Back in the day, many people including Black women, considered only straightened hair to be professional. However, as more women go natural, that notion is changing. Professional hair isn’t about texture. It is about a hairstyle that is neat, clean, and shapes the face.  Even though a dress code should not discriminate under Title VII of the US Civil Rights Act of 1964, it is unfortunate that many enforceable dress codes include provisions that will affect women in the workplace.  In the end, if you believe you need to change the way you look in order to get the job, you should seek employment elsewhere.

Your hair does not define you.

It does not define your career.

It should not define your paycheck.

And it surely does not define your social standing.

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  • Reply Nerline

    Well said, Neti! My natural hair is part of who I am. God did not make a mistake when he created me with my tight curls. A decent hairstyle that shapes our face is all we need, indeed. It’s true that we are being judge everyday, but we do with those judgments is up to us. Great post!

    12/15/2017 at 10:14 am
  • Reply Nerline

    I forgot to say I love the new blog template. LOL!

    12/15/2017 at 10:15 am
    • Reply Neti*

      You are truly my Sista! Yes. . we love to change our surroundings. Happy Holidays my Dear.

      12/15/2017 at 12:01 pm
  • Reply Joi @INMYJOI

    OUR hair is such a part of who we are, with one change it can elevate or depreciate a mood drastically. It can be used as a means of self-expression, an accessory, and more. I love wearing my hair in a multitude of ways- and when I get tired of it – on with the wigs, extensions, etc. It’s great that our society is finally coming to grips with the varying natural hair textures of black women. I concur- if the people at your job cannot accept your hair – it’s time to move on!

    12/15/2017 at 12:17 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      You said it all Sis. . Happy Holidays!!

      12/15/2017 at 1:20 pm
  • Reply March and May

    That is such an amazing video (and great information). And it is so true.

    March and May

    12/15/2017 at 7:41 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks a Bunch.

      12/19/2017 at 12:47 pm
  • Reply Linda

    Great video! Love your blog!


    Linda from Beauty And Tips

    12/17/2017 at 4:02 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks Linda.

      12/19/2017 at 12:47 pm
  • Reply Missy May

    Funny you talking about hair. People definitely judge. Ever since I caught my hair, some people have perceived me as some sort of bad, rude and rascal person. Someone actually told me I might not find a husband with my hairstyle. When I told someone I am a teacher, he was shocked just because he taught I was a ‘I don’t care smoking’ jamaican. I had to contain myself before I bitch slapped em to Africa. Lol!!

    12/17/2017 at 4:20 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Yes Dear. Discrimination is everywhere and in our Face.

      12/19/2017 at 12:50 pm
  • Reply Jamala Wallace

    Excellent post. as India sings..I am not my Hair!

    12/17/2017 at 9:12 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Me too. Thanks JW.

      12/19/2017 at 12:50 pm
  • Reply Oh to Be a Muse

    What I’m happiest about is the entire natural hair phenomenon that has occurred in recent years. With more and more women wearing their hair in natural styles or protective styles, more companies and brands have had to become accepting of it. Obviously, there are still many hurdles to jump over, but I’m glad that our natural hair is being recognized.

    12/18/2017 at 12:54 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks Dear. Happy Holidays. .

      12/19/2017 at 12:51 pm
  • Reply Eugenia Russell Hargrove

    Hi! This blog is so fabulous looking. As always great information, this time about hair and the perceptions of it hair may and may not represent.
    What I do like is that we as black women have many choices, entirely natural, braided, weaves, colors or even natural hair blown straight like mine.
    As we age, is another consideration, thinning hair can be an embarrassing problem and force one to utilize wigs or piece. But again, I like that we have choices.

    12/19/2017 at 10:09 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks Eugenia. I am thankful that we do have choices. Happy Holidays!!

      12/19/2017 at 11:59 pm

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