You have all seen it – “If you Love someone set them free . . . . blah, blah, blah” . . So many of us have set our true loves free and we never saw them again. So, what happened? You loved them but they did not love you! Is it true that if someone truly loves you they will find you?
All this is “bullshit” if you are on the outside sitting with a broken heart and cannot seem to get over some dude. According to the singer Jill Scott you got “Dickmatized”. “She says. . .you got caught up in the rapture. The sex was so amazing you’re outside in the daytime with a flashlight looking for that man.” If this is so, you got it good and every woman should have that feeling at least once. But, everything happens for a reason and you need to find the “YOU” that you left behind on the way to bitterville.
Love Yourself First!
You are not the first and you sure will not be the last to have a little disappointment. But running after that man who turned his head, is just not You. Time to reflect on your strengths and values and make yourself Loveable. Get rid of the bitter and the ugly and just shine. Do not close the door on Love.
You know the old joke: Santa Claus, the Perfect Woman, the Perfect Man and the Tooth Fairy get into a car accident – who survives? Answer: the Perfect Woman, because the other three don’t exist! But is that really fair? Some of us have known men who are nearly perfect (or at least think they are). I think all women have a preconceived notion of who Mr. Perfect is.
If you already have your slice of Perfect, then consider yourself well Blessed. For me, He is still missing in action. Just finding the perfect date let alone the perfect Mister has gotten impossible. So, I have stopped looking so that He can look for Me.
Whether you’ve found your Prince Charming or are still searching for “The One” you know what it takes to make your mind, body and soul scream “I’m in Love!” and should not settle. If you are still on the hunt, look carefully at your list and strike off “Handsome” & “Wealthy”. Replace those traits with “Healthy with a Job” and “Single-No Alimony” and check your list twice. So many friends & family members tell us single gals that the “Right One” is out there, so make yourself LOVEABLE and maybe you will find the one that is perfect for YOU.