Self Love

Self-love is about more than sitting in a bubble bath with a glass of wine once per month. Self-love is about the way you view yourself, speak to yourself, treat yourself, and the dreams you have for your life. I never get tired of writing these kind of posts, because we all need reminders from time to time. Here are a few truths about self-love we all need to remember.

1. You are inherently enough. There is a common myth in society that we have to earn or prove our worth by completing a certain number of external achievements  –  like having a large house, successful career, impressive partner and acceptable body shape. The truth is,  you were born enough. 

2. Comparison is a waste of energy. Comparison misses the whole point of your life  –  to be you. To be the unique once-in-humankind blend of divine gifts.

 3. It makes sense to focus on your strengths. You get more of what you focus on. So, instead of focusing on your flaws and imperfections, focus on what you do well, instead of only noticing what you do wrong.

4. Self-care is not selfish. It is essential. When you get so busy with to-do lists and work and giving to others that you forget to make time for self-care and pleasure, your cup is going to run dry. Make time in your day and week to do the things you love, and small acts of self-care to refill your cup.

5. Create empowering self-talk because you are listening.  Encourage yourself with kind words, a positive mindset and affirmations. Your self-talk matters because YOU are listening to it . And, it has an impact on the way you see yourself and what you believe you are capable of.

6. You are not what others think of you. You couldn’t possibly be what others think of you –  because everyone has a different opinion of you. When you accept yourself, you no longer need the acceptance of others because you already know you are Awesome.

7. You are perfectly imperfect. Many of us believe the myth that we have to fix ourselves constantly or be perfect of the week in order to be on top. The truth is that we are already perfect, flaws and all.

8. You have to love yourself first. Many of us make the mistake of putting off self-love until some day next month. We think when we get the loving partner, the perfect job, the big bank balance, or the weight loss, then we’ll love ourselves. Not so. You need to love and accept yourself first. . then everything will fall into place.

The truth is that Self-love is essential to living Your Best life.  You are the person you spend the most time with in this life, and you are the common factor in ALL areas of your life, so your relationship with yourself is going to have a huge impact on your quality of life. And, loving self will empower you to not settle for less than you deserve.  As you ponder on your plans for this brand new year 2018, ask yourself. .

Are there people in your life that are no longer “your people”?

Is it time to let them go and create space for others that bring you Joy?

What if you simply devoted this year to loving yourself more?  WOWZA!!

Happy 2018 Sistas & Friends.

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  • Reply Missy May

    You’re so right about each pointer and I needed a reminder for sure. I am taking these on board with me. Thanks so much for sharing.
    -And cheers to a happy blessed 2018 big sis. Appreciate ya!

    01/02/2018 at 4:13 pm
  • Reply jodie filogomo

    This is exactly what I need to hear. We really are enough and I’m finally learning to give myself grace. Although there are some days…..
    Happy 2018!

    01/02/2018 at 5:02 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      There will always be some days. . . knowing that makes us stronger. Thanks Jodie.

      01/03/2018 at 1:12 pm
  • Reply robincharmagne

    Perfect mantra for the year, love thyself. I needed this for sure, especially #5. Have a wonderful New Year Neti!

    01/03/2018 at 7:43 am
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks Sis. Have a splendid year.

      01/03/2018 at 1:13 pm
  • Reply Antionette Blake

    There is only one of us and we only get one go ’round – so we have to make sure we are treating ourselves right otherwise, not one will.

    01/03/2018 at 2:24 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Yes Sis. Thanks.

      01/04/2018 at 1:18 am
  • Reply KizzyDoll

    I agree with all of this…fantastic post.Self Love is what sets free 🙂 xx

    01/04/2018 at 6:07 am
  • Reply Eugenia Russell Hargrove

    Well said Neti, all points worth examining to help advance in self-love/care.

    01/04/2018 at 8:26 am
  • Reply Falasha

    This is so inspiring. Such a great read and reminder. Thank you.

    xoxo Falasha

    01/05/2018 at 8:09 am
  • Reply March and May

    This is such a good post. And especially at the begging of the new year. Self love is the most important thing. Happy New Year honey. Hope this one is the best one yet.

    March and May

    01/06/2018 at 10:36 pm
  • Reply Oh to Be a Muse

    Agree with all of this, especially #2 and #7. We have to stop comparing ourselves to others and realize that no one is perfect and that’s totally OK.

    01/08/2018 at 4:17 pm
  • Reply Fashionably Idu

    So well said. Self love is every darn thing and I wish we all would do it more. You can’t pour from an empty cup right? So we have to have love in our cups first before we can give it. Happy new year to you fabulous!

    01/08/2018 at 5:50 pm
  • Reply NERLINE

    “You were born enough.” I was born enough! Thanks for reminding me of that, sis! I learned last year that I can make the world a better place if I make one person happy, even if that person is me. This year I want that person to be me. Thanks for reassuring me that it’s not selfish. Thanks for sharing this post, Neti! I wish you the best for the new year!

    01/09/2018 at 5:29 am
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