A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve similarity, love, romance, comfort, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, or compatibility and trust. – Wikipedia.

Whether you believe in the concept of soul mates or not, most would agree there are some people who affect you so intensely they take your breath away. It’s an overwhelming feeling that you just can’t shake. Meeting the person you were meant to be with, can disrupt your world in such a way that it can completely engulf you. Opening up to someone new can be terrifying. So, if you find yourself opening up easily and sharing secrets you’ve never told anyone else, it’s a good sign you are connecting on a deeper level.valentines119When you can easily share all of your shame, fears, desires, and fantasies, you may have met your match. And to top it off, you are attracted to this person! We’re not just talking about physical attraction, but also emotional attraction. Sure, you may want to ravish each other, but you also feel an emotional connection. It’s a meeting of the mind, body, and soul. Beyond being strongly attracted to each other, you have an amazing chemistry that can be felt and seen. When you’re alone together, the atmosphere is so charged with desire, you can barely stand it.

While all these things signal a strong connection, don’t forget the importance of compatibility as well as shared interests and values. If you have nothing in common and share little or no interests once the newness of the relationship wears off, there’s not much left to work with. So, what is compatibility?  You know you are compatible when you both share similar views and opinions on the issues that matter most to you. While the sex may be hot, it’s not enough to sustain a long-term relationship. However, in a healthy union, sex is the icing on the cake that can help a relationship grow stronger and deepen trust. But, if you are in a relationship that is clearly going south, but you’re hanging on for the sex, you’re just fooling yourself.soulmate6

When your looks are gone – and they will go one day – will your partner still be there? Compatibility is important because the superficial things that may have initially caught your attention will not last forever. Waist lines expand, hair thins, and skin wrinkles. Shared interests and a solid friendship with your partner is what will survive the test of time.  And most importantly, RESPECT for each other.soulmate2When all these factors are in harmony, you just know it’s right. When you’ve found the one, don’t let anything get in your way. Do as much as you can to try to be together. Life is too short for “woulda. . coulda. . shoulda. Life let your paths cross for a reason, so take your chance while you still have it.


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  • Reply KizzyDoll

    I think people get caught up in finding a soul mate and forget to find a friend, or ignore what is right in front of them. But, I do think there is someone out there for everyone, just takes a while to find them 🙂 Have a great day lovely x

    03/01/2017 at 4:03 am
    • Reply Neti*

      You are right Sis. Still waiting for mine to find me. . .

      03/01/2017 at 12:42 pm
  • Reply robincharmagne

    Yes I believe in soulmates and hope to find mine before I leave this earth. That quote describes exactly the type of relationship I would like!

    03/01/2017 at 7:55 am
    • Reply Neti*

      Don’t give up Sis. One of these days mine will surface too. . .

      03/01/2017 at 12:43 pm
  • Reply Missy May

    I’m praying for my soulmate. Hope by the grace of God I will know when he’s in front of me. Thanks for the tips Mz Neti. You’re right! 🙂

    03/02/2017 at 6:14 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks. I hope you can identify him quickly Sis.

      03/03/2017 at 12:43 pm
  • Reply nerline

    I love this post. Connecting on a deeper level is key. Thanks for sharing sis.

    03/03/2017 at 10:17 am
  • Reply Lenya

    Another wise and thoughtful post, Neti. You are right, respect for each other is the most important thing. Without respect you have nothing.
    much luv and big hugs
    latest look: Movie Blues

    03/06/2017 at 2:47 am
  • Reply idu

    It can definitely be a meeting of mind soul and body. People often wonder if your soul mate has to be your spouse. Whats your take on that? I feel like it could be a friend that you have a great connection with too. Great post as always. I like that question ‘when ur looks are gone and they’ll be gone one day, will your partner still be there’. Food for thought. Happy new week!

    03/06/2017 at 5:44 am
  • Reply Beauty

    So, so true! Compatibility and Friendship can really not be over emphasized.

    03/08/2017 at 12:56 pm
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