A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve similarity, love, romance, comfort, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, or compatibility and trust. – Wikipedia.
Whether you believe in the concept of soul mates or not, most would agree there are some people who affect you so intensely they take your breath away. It’s an overwhelming feeling that you just can’t shake. Meeting the person you were meant to be with, can disrupt your world in such a way that it can completely engulf you. Opening up to someone new can be terrifying. So, if you find yourself opening up easily and sharing secrets you’ve never told anyone else, it’s a good sign you are connecting on a deeper level.When you can easily share all of your shame, fears, desires, and fantasies, you may have met your match. And to top it off, you are attracted to this person! We’re not just talking about physical attraction, but also emotional attraction. Sure, you may want to ravish each other, but you also feel an emotional connection. It’s a meeting of the mind, body, and soul. Beyond being strongly attracted to each other, you have an amazing chemistry that can be felt and seen. When you’re alone together, the atmosphere is so charged with desire, you can barely stand it.
While all these things signal a strong connection, don’t forget the importance of compatibility as well as shared interests and values. If you have nothing in common and share little or no interests once the newness of the relationship wears off, there’s not much left to work with. So, what is compatibility? You know you are compatible when you both share similar views and opinions on the issues that matter most to you. While the sex may be hot, it’s not enough to sustain a long-term relationship. However, in a healthy union, sex is the icing on the cake that can help a relationship grow stronger and deepen trust. But, if you are in a relationship that is clearly going south, but you’re hanging on for the sex, you’re just fooling yourself.
When your looks are gone – and they will go one day – will your partner still be there? Compatibility is important because the superficial things that may have initially caught your attention will not last forever. Waist lines expand, hair thins, and skin wrinkles. Shared interests and a solid friendship with your partner is what will survive the test of time. And most importantly, RESPECT for each other.When all these factors are in harmony, you just know it’s right. When you’ve found the one, don’t let anything get in your way. Do as much as you can to try to be together. Life is too short for “woulda. . coulda. . shoulda.“ Life let your paths cross for a reason, so take your chance while you still have it.