Swoftie in da Club

Hands in the air if you’re over the age of 50 and dislike the term cougar and not sure you want to labelled any darn thing. Now, I hear a new term. . SWOFTIE. This could be ME and all of those single women over 50, who know there is more to life than quietly disappearing into the corner.   Swoftie – a female over the age of fifty who is single and loving the fact that they are single (Urban Dictionary).  Over-50’s women today are far more independent and open to new experiences than their mothers’ generation, mainly due to the fact that many went out to work and have established themselves in careers than in previous years. I’m sure you have seen older women out at the clubs having fun.

Once upon a time there was a 77 year old  woman named Disco Sally, whose dance moves made her the hottest club kid at Studio 54.  As New York magazine reported in 1991. . .  “A tiny, 77-year-old lawyer named Sally Lippman was mourning the death of her husband when she happened upon the disco scene and changed her life. Dressed in tight pants and high-top sneakers, she became Disco Sally, a star of Studio 54 and Xenon who’d draw an audience of adoring fans as she got down on the dance floor.”


The fact is, at 21 you want to party, at 35 you like to go clubbing, but at 45, you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place. You are well aware that your best days are behind you, but something keeps pulling you back into the nightlife. Much as you love to dance, it never takes too long for reality to hit you in the face, telling you that you should probably not be hanging out in the club anymore. It could be a club fight that breaks out while you’re there, or knowing that you’ll be calling out of work tomorrow and missing an important meeting because your head is throbbing. Whatever it is, you’ve probably ignored all the signs that it’s time to hang up your club antics, and still want to dance with shoes in hand on somebody dance floor.  Swoftie in da Club“. . as Disco Sally would say.

It is true that spending the night knocking back watered down vodkas, shouting over music and waking up with blurry memories and ruined shoes doesn’t quite cut it anymore.  Surely there’s clubbing legs left in the old horse yet. But clubbing has a shelf life whoever or wherever you are.  My days may be numbered when it comes to clubbing, but nothing gets me up out of my chair at a party, like a great Soca vibe and before you know it, I’m 45 and whining again til morning come. . .

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  • Reply Jamala

    I’ve not heard the term swoftie before.. lol.. but i will confess I’m a househead for life and will muster up any energy i can to go to a house music party..

    08/09/2017 at 8:52 am
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks Dear. I don’t go clubbing like I used to, but every so often I have to get my dance on.

      08/09/2017 at 1:16 pm
  • Reply IrieDiva

    LOL swoftie! I feel you Neti, I will be a swoftie for sure too as even though I’ve surely hung up the club life, locally at least, just like you I sure still do enjoy a good soca party or a beach party and don’t see me hanging that up any time soon. Here’s to dropping legs!

    08/09/2017 at 3:13 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Yes Dear. Drop legs!!!!

      08/13/2017 at 10:23 pm
  • Reply Fashionably Idu

    This got me laughing. You’re one helluva a gal Mz Neti. Keep clubbing or dancing to soca music, age is just a number!

    08/12/2017 at 12:37 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks Sis. I do love good music.

      08/13/2017 at 10:24 pm
  • Reply Oh to Be a Muse

    Wow, where do we get these terms! I’ve actually never heard the term swoftie before this post. I actually don’t like to go clubbing. I pretty much stopped going clubbing after graduating college. I can do bars every now and then, and I can dance, but clubs are not for me. I wonder if there’s a term for women in their 30s who hate clubs, lol.

    08/14/2017 at 2:19 pm
    • Reply Neti*

      I’m sure there’s a name for everything. .Thanks Dear.

      08/15/2017 at 2:53 pm
  • Reply Lenya

    Lol, I’ve never heard this term before. Swofty, why the heck do they have to stick a label onto everything, beats me! If you wanna dance till you are 110, do it, life is too short to think in labels or whatever. We are just dancing the age away, yeah!
    bis hugs my beautiful dancing sis

    08/15/2017 at 9:23 am
    • Reply Neti*

      Thanks sweet Sis. Dancing is a great workout too.

      08/15/2017 at 2:54 pm
  • Reply Antionette M Blake

    Swoftie – what a term – party on my friend!

    08/15/2017 at 9:33 pm
  • Reply Eugenia Russell Hargrove

    Hi! Another fun article. I’m not familiar with the term “Swoftie.” However, I do know, clubbing does have a shelf life, been there, done that and not going back, lol!

    08/25/2017 at 11:51 pm
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