Frenemy – your friend-plus-enemy in one. Someone who pretends to be a friend but is actually a rival. Who is often helpful & complimentary, sometimes to excess. But deep down they harbor a second motive, which is to compete with or humiliate their “friend.”
Every confident woman has at least one Frenemy. You may or may not know this person up close, but they are hiding in your almost perfect life. They’re these females who pose as friends, but in reality, have ill intentions. These supposedly “friends” like to know about you and what’s going on in your life so that they can use it against you, copy you and take the credit, or celebrate your faults and mishaps. These girls are everywhere – at work, in your circle of friends, at the gym, or at your family’s BBQ.
Is she Complimenting you or Keeping you in your Place?
The hard thing about spotting frenemies is that they usually don’t intend to hurt you. They just want to boost their own egos and feel superior. And the best way to do that is to make someone else, namely you, toe the line just behind where they want to be standing. A frenemy, therefore, uses compliments that have a demeaning subtext. Be wary if your friend gives you backhanded compliments and wants to be up in your space. Those so-called compliments are a frenemy’s way of letting you know that she has lower standards for you than she has for herself. And that can be worse for your self-esteem than any put down from a known enemy. The most dangerous of these are your work buddies. You know, that girl . . she not only wants your job, she also wants your Life!The work Frenemy brings you news about others, comes to complain about her boss and solicits your comments to use against you. These “brown nosers” pretend to want to be better at their job. Beware of the new so-very-friendly girl who just wants to bond with you and does not have a boyfriend. If the boss is a man and he his very vulnerable she is the new “bait & switch” and can be threatening.