Lifestyle, Sisterhood

    Fluid or Not

    Back in the stone ages, “gay” just referred to anyone who was attracted to people of the same sex or who had a non-normative gender presentation or identity, but nowadays things are more defined.  Sexual Fluidity is becoming increasingly common among young people. A study released in August 2015 found that nearly one-third of American millennials identify as something other than straight, as compared to 14 percent of baby boomers.  If you can, think back to 1990 when conversations about sexuality were typically limited to gay or straight and maybe, once in a while bisexual. We thought we knew it all back then.  Do you think you can guess someone’s sexuality by looking at them?“Fluid sexuality is a more current and inclusive term which speaks to an individual’s sexual orientation that is open and changing, and not gender binary-based, and may lean more heavily towards one gender while open to all genders,” explains Dr. Chris Donaghue, author of “Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Culture”.  It seems like there’s an identity for pretty much everything, and the community of same-sex-loving and gender-non-conforming individuals has spiraled into a confusing rainbow of identities. Bisexual, pansexual, demiromantic, aromantic – the identities with which people label themselves continue to become more diverse and more mainstream. Continue reading


    Swoftie in da Club

    Hands in the air if you’re over the age of 50 and dislike the term cougar and not sure you want to labelled any darn thing. Now, I hear a new term. . SWOFTIE. This could be ME and all of those single women over 50, who know there is more to life than quietly disappearing into the corner.   Swoftie – a female over the age of fifty who is single and loving the fact that they are single (Urban Dictionary).  Over-50’s women today are far more independent and open to new experiences than their mothers’ generation, mainly due to the fact that many went out to work and have established themselves in careers than in previous years. I’m sure you have seen older women out at the clubs having fun.

    Once upon a time there was a 77 year old  woman named Disco Sally, whose dance moves made her the hottest club kid at Studio 54.  As New York magazine reported in 1991. . .  “A tiny, 77-year-old lawyer named Sally Lippman was mourning the death of her husband when she happened upon the disco scene and changed her life. Dressed in tight pants and high-top sneakers, she became Disco Sally, a star of Studio 54 and Xenon who’d draw an audience of adoring fans as she got down on the dance floor.”


    The fact is, at 21 you want to party, at 35 you like to go clubbing, but at 45, you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place. You are well aware that your best days are behind you, but something keeps pulling you back into the nightlife. Much as you love to dance, it never takes too long for reality to hit you in the face, telling you that you should probably not be hanging out in the club anymore. It could be a club fight that breaks out while you’re there, or knowing that you’ll be calling out of work tomorrow and missing an important meeting because your head is throbbing. Whatever it is, you’ve probably ignored all the signs that it’s time to hang up your club antics, and still want to dance with shoes in hand on somebody dance floor.  Swoftie in da Club“. . as Disco Sally would say. Continue reading